To understand the essence of child psychosomatics, one must recall that on an energetic level, parents and children are a single entity. This position has been confirmed by research.
Dr. V. Sinelnikov notes: if a child is very young, they work together with the parents. As the parents change, the child heals. If the child is older, the doctor works directly with them. As the child heals, the parents themselves change.
V. Sinelnikov writes that even if parents hide their poor relationship from the child, the child knows everything due to the energetic connection, as all information about their feelings and thoughts is contained in the child’s subconscious. Therefore, if the parents have problems, the child either behaves strangely or falls ill as a reaction, unable to express in words what they feel.
Hence, the doctor concludes that a child’s illness is a signal for parents to change themselves. However, in practice, this signal is often ignored and suppressed with medication. V. Sinelnikov notes that the illness-signal doesn’t disappear but continues to disrupt the child’s subtle energy structures.
He states that negative, destructive programs are often implanted into children’s subconscious during pregnancy through negative thoughts and feelings, poor parental relationships, and sometimes even those of grandparents (e.g., a mother’s thoughts of abortion can later cause pregnancy complications or illnesses in the newborn).
Psychologist and renowned author on psychosomatics Lise Bourbeau asserts that children primarily suffer from diseases of the throat, nose, ears, eyes, and skin. According to her, any childhood illness indicates that the child feels anger about what is happening around them. But it’s hard for them to express their experiences, either because they don’t know how or because they are forbidden by parents (e.g., “don’t shout,” “don’t cry,” etc.).
According to Lise Bourbeau, these illnesses appear when a child lacks attention and love.
Louise Hay believes that the basis of children’s diseases lies in parental principles and behavior: adherence to ideals, social ideas, and false laws, as well as childish behavior among adults (parents and other relatives).
According to Dr. O. Torsunov, if there is no atmosphere of serenity and peace in the family, children will be very sick at first as they lack peace. This manifests as a sensation of intense heat in the body, feelings of anxiety. They will cry, scream, and be restless (restless mind and restless sleep). O. Torsunov believes this indicates that no one in the family wishes to bring peace to others, suggesting internal family aggression and externally directed aggression.
For parents seeking information, note that child psychosomatics is well covered in N.Y. Dmitrieva’s book “Child Psychosomatics: Why Our Children Are Sick,” and in the article “If the Child is Sick: Treat the Parents.”
Psychosomatic Causes of Children’s Diseases
Let’s consider the possible causes of some psychosomatic diseases in children.
Adenoids The main cause is the fears of parents (especially in mothers, about and without reason – often without reason: minor but exaggerated fears about nothing in particular, typical for overly anxious mothers). Another cause is the child’s subconscious feeling of being unwanted.
Tonsillitis Luule Viilma writes that the emergence of tonsillitis in girls under one year old is fundamentally linked to the relationship problems between parents. Arguments between parents, accompanied by yelling. Another cause of psychosomatic tonsillitis is the psychologically incorrect attitude of adults, specifically parents, towards children (often silencing the child, forbidding them from expressing their opinions or emotions, as well as protest: “don’t yell,” “don’t make noise,” “don’t cry,” “you’re too young to learn,” “be quiet,” etc.). Crying, yelling, speaking – these are natural ways for children to express their feelings, not just whims as some parents think.
Appendicitis Appendicitis in children arises due to their inability to escape a deadlock situation.
Asthma The psychosomatics of asthma are well explained by Louise Hay. In her view, this ailment appears in children due to a fear of life or an unwillingness to be in a particular place. The question arises: if a child feels loved and there is love and peace in the family, can such negative experiences still occur? Some psychologists write that among the causes of childhood asthma are suppressed love and fear of life. In the case of bronchial asthma, the basis is the absence or lack of motherly love and warmth, or conversely, an excess of smothering care, maternal hyperprotection.
Atopic Dermatitis Generally, children’s skin diseases (chickenpox, measles, scarlet fever, rubella) are identified by B. Baginsky and Sh. Shalila as the next step in a child’s development. In their opinion, something that is still unknown to the child and therefore cannot be freely processed without difficulty manifests on the skin. After such diseases, the child becomes more mature, as noticed by those around them. Atopic dermatitis in children occurs more often. As psychologists write, based on their practice, its basis lies in emotional reasons (lack of love or suppressed aggression due to hyperprotection by parents).
Allergy Liz Bourbeau points out the following causes of children’s allergies: allergy as rejection (of constant parental quarrels) and allergy as a way to attract attention (due to a feeling of lack of attention and love). Sinelnikov notes that an allergic reaction in children is a reflection of the parents’ behavior. Food allergy in children speaks of the liver’s helplessness, which, as Luule Viilma asserts, means a lack of energy in the heart chakra: the child’s heart is blocked by silent heartache due to the collapse of parental love. According to her, allergy in the form of crusts on the skin speaks of suppressed or repressed pity in the mother, as well as sadness. Ordinary allergy – hatred and anger of parents towards everything, the child’s fear of “being unloved.” Allergy to fish products – the child’s protest against the parents’ self-sacrifice. Luule Viilma writes that if a child is allergic to wool, one should look closely at the mother, as the cause may be in her imbalance.
According to psychologists’ observations, allergies in children can also arise due to prolonged separations from the mother, family conflicts, constant prohibitions and restrictions, as well as a way to attract attention and satisfy the need for love and affection. In infants, the appearance of an allergic reaction is closely related to the emotional state of the mother, as well as such emotions as anxiety and fear.
Autism Research into this ailment has revealed that its causes should be sought in infancy, in the child’s life up to the age of 8 months (appears as a protective reaction, allowing to “shut off” from scandals in the family). According to Liz Bourbeau, such a child is too strongly karmically connected with his mother: possibly, in a past life, something very complicated and unpleasant happened between the child and the mother, and now he takes revenge on her by rejecting the food and love she offers him (recall the characteristic symptoms: silence, painful withdrawal into oneself, loss of appetite, absence of the pronoun I in his speech, inability to look people straight in the eye). The psychologist believes that the child unconsciously chooses the disease to escape reality and notes that his actions indicate that he does not accept this incarnation.
Bronchitis V. Sinelnikov asserts that if there are constant arguments and conflicts in the family, children begin to suffer from bronchopulmonary diseases. Among the psychological causes of children’s bronchitis, psychologists identify the authoritarianism of parents. In such parents, children are forbidden to express their desires and opinions aloud. Luule Viilma believes that bronchitis in girls indicates problems with communication and love feelings.
Myopia The psychosomatics of children’s myopia manifests in that if there are constant troubles and conflicts in the family, causing suffering to the child’s soul, then his body weakens vision to alleviate the soul’s pain. Adolescence brings many worries related to one’s future (fear of becoming an adult, fear of choosing one’s path (what if I make a mistake), etc.). The body’s response to these mental torments will again be the onset of myopia. Sometimes there are cases when a child is comfortable at home, but in the big world (kindergarten, school), he faces problems, discomfort in relationships. Then myopia appears as a protection from the outside world.
Viral Diseases Viral diseases in children, according to Luule Viilma, are a silent struggle for survival. These diseases are associated with their desire to leave home, to die. The doctor believes that complications of viral diseases in boys are related to the fact that the mother cannot cope with the father and therefore fights with him mentally and verbally.
Chickenpox, Measles, Mumps Chickenpox, measles, mumps, according to Luule Viilma, indicate maternal malice due to powerlessness or maternal malice due to renunciation.
Congenital Diseases in Children Psychologist Liz Bourbeau provides the following metaphysical explanation for congenital diseases in children: such a disease indicates that the soul, incarnated in the newborn, has brought with it some unresolved conflict from its past incarnation. She further explains that the soul incarnates many times, and its earthly lives can be compared to our days. And by analogy, it turns out that if a person injured himself and could not heal on the same day (in a previous life), then the next morning (this life) he will wake up with the same injury and continue to heal it. Therefore, in this life, a child with such an ailment wants to heal the soul conflict from a past life. For this, he simply needs the love and help of parents, whom he has chosen. It is worth remembering that such a child “comes” to specific parents (and it is not about the age of the mother, as such children are born to young and healthy parents). Thus, the souls of the parents and the soul of such a child are somehow connected with each other and know for what purpose this happens (souls always know, unlike the selfish mind, which refuses to accept).
Some authors believe that a child with a congenital disease is the karma of the parents, a punishment for the parents, someone considers it a test for the parents, and someone – a blessing for the parents (that is, they are given the opportunity for spiritual growth through love for their unusual child).
Diarrhea Psychologists believe that at the basis of this ailment is the escape from something that is beyond the child’s comprehension (unreal fears related to characters), as well as real fears (fear of the dark, etc.). Liz Bourbeau believes that those suffering from diarrhea have a prevailing sense of rejection and guilt. The psychologist characterizes them as hypersensitive children who, upon the appearance of fear, begin to reject the situation associated with the fear. B. Baginsky and Sh. Shalila also write that the basis of diarrhea lies in problems associated with fear when one wants to quickly get rid of negative experiences or impressions.
Constipation The causes of constipation in children, according to A. Nekrasov, lie in the relationships of the parents. This disorder in a child says that their worldview lacks dynamics, that they live by old (old, outdated, and unnecessary principles, ideas, thoughts, emotions, etc.). According to other authors, this ailment is associated with the child’s reluctance to part with something that has become habitual (old house, old friends, etc.).
Stuttering According to Liz Bourbeau, stuttering arises due to fear of expressing one’s needs and desires. Such a child, the psychologist believes, is afraid of those who represent authority for him (father, mother, grandparents) and he is afraid to show or express anything in front of them. Louise Hay writes that the psychological causes of this ailment are a sense of unreliability, lack of self-expression, and when a child is forbidden to cry.
Runny Nose Psychologists believe that a runny nose indicates a child’s low self-esteem, his acute need to understand his value in this world, the need to recognize his abilities. Luule Viilma sees in the basis of chronic rhinitis a constant state of being offended.
Otitis V. Sinelnikov writes that when there is noise and quarrels in the family, the child often responds with ear inflammation, signaling to the parents that they need silence, peace, and harmony in the family.
High Fever, Fever Luule Viilma highlights the following causes of high fever: tension in a quarrel with the mother, exhaustion, strong, vehement malice, malice when blaming the guilty, and being overwhelmed with stress. In other words, the child is filled with anger and malice, literally “boiling over,” because they cannot or do not know how to express their emotions. Even medical professionals remind us that a rise in temperature in children can occur after a tantrum and strong crying, which are indicators and expressions of a child’s anger (therefore, it should not be forbidden for them to express themselves in this way – they need to release the negativity). Psychosomatic temperature can also be a reaction of the child’s body to stress related to changes in the usual environment (moving, changing the setting or daily routine, visiting a daycare, etc.). It has been noted that as soon as children return to their familiar environment, this symptom disappears.
Pyelonephritis As psychologists note, this ailment indicates that children are forced to engage in activities they do not like. This is especially evident when parents make them attend various clubs or sections that the child does not enjoy.
Enuresis According to psychologist Liz Bourbeau, this ailment indicates that the child restrains themselves so much during the day that they are no longer able to do so at night. They are very afraid of the person who represents authority for them – the father (or the one who performs the father’s functions): afraid not to please, not to meet his expectations.
Louise Hay also believes that the basis of enuresis in children is fear of the parents, usually – the father.
Doctor Luule Viilma sees the cause of the ailment as the child’s fear for the father, related to the fears and anger of the mother directed at the child’s father.
Paths to Healing Psychosomatic Ailments in Children
Firstly, as per Dr. V. Sinelnikov’s practice, it’s concluded that all children’s diseases are a reflection of their parents’ behavior and thoughts. Hence, a hint for parents: they can help their child recover by CHANGING THEIR principles, thoughts, and behavior.
Psychologists agree that a child’s illness is their CRY for help. The child needs psychological support and emotional care from parents, as they are in pain, scared, and troubled by incomprehensible yet frightening life situations (coldness in relationships, noisy quarrels between loved ones, rejection of the child themselves (yelling “not like that,” “you’re doing it wrong,” etc.)).
Parents must remember that the child is a reflection of the father and mother (physically, this is true: 23 pairs of chromosomes are transmitted to the child from both parents). On an energetic level, it’s through them that the male and female principles of the Universe are present and developed in the child.
If conflicts arise between the father (symbol of the male principle) and mother (symbol of the female principle), the child cannot integrate these two cosmic energies into their inner world, crucial in everyone’s life. This leads to an internal imbalance and conflict in the child, provoking negative experiences. And prolonged negative experiences, as we know, lead to disorders in the child’s body, to diseases.
Therefore, if parents want their child to grow up healthy and happy, they should foster good relationships with each other, their child (they are You), and the world around them.
All this is possible, provided Love and Peace reign in their souls. What remains is to nurture these vitally important feelings and soul states within oneself.
Yes, often a child (their soul) chooses a difficult ailment (autism, etc.) for specific reasons known only to them. Therefore, parents should not blame themselves or anyone else: if this is the child’s choice and decision, then their soul (and along with it, the souls of the parents, to whom such a child came) needs to go through this life lesson to develop certain qualities and abilities.
Another important point: RESPONSIBILITY. Always remember that you, the parents, wanted to become dad and mom and dreamed of a child, calling them to come to you (don’t forget that some pray for years for this miracle). The child responded and came. What did you do in preparation for their arrival? Did you cultivate love and patience, understanding and agreement, and other qualities necessary for a harmonious family?
Even when you say that the conception was accidental, the question arises: how could two adults allow themselves to be so irresponsible, causing a little angel, a reflection of you, to suffer later?
That is, when your child suffers (from diseases, quarrels, etc.), it is a part of you that suffers, your blood, a part of your soul. Knowing this, every normal person will do everything to stop the suffering and create conditions of Love and Peace in their family.
And don’t make excuses like “we were raised this way.” Yes, your parents did not know such “subtle” things; they loved and raised you as best they could, thinking it was all correct.
But now everything is in your hands. You can give your child what (love, warmth, kindness, attention, sensitivity, respect, etc.) you would have liked to have received, as your child is you, your continuation. After all, if your child is happy and healthy, you will be happy and healthy (since you will not have worries and heavy thoughts about them, but only joy from their achievements). So, act!
I wish you happy parenting and a harmonious family!