Infertility is the inability of individuals of reproductive age to conceive offspring. Let’s consider separately the main aspects of female and male infertility. Female infertility is the inability to conceive a child. Depending on the mechanism of occurrence, the following types of female infertility are distinguished:
- Congenital and acquired;
- Depending on past pregnancies: primary and secondary;
- Depending on the possibility of pregnancy: absolute and relative;
- Depending on the duration: temporary, permanent, or physiological;
- Depending on the causes of infertility: endocrine, tubal, peritoneal, uterine, cervical, immunological, psychogenic, and infertility of unknown etiology.
Causes of infertility include congenital anomalies of the reproductive organs or acquired disorders: ovulation disorders in endocrine pathologies, disturbances in the functions of the reproductive organs, infections and gynecological diseases, metabolic imbalance (excess weight, improper diet), general diseases, physical exertion, intoxications (smoking, etc.), psychogenic factors, etc.
Male infertility is the inability to fertilize. Two main forms of male infertility are distinguished:
- Secretory (disruption of sperm formation)
- Obstructive (presence of an obstacle in the path of sperm).
Causes of the secretory form include syphilis, tuberculosis, typhoid, hormonal disorders, the use of antitumor drugs, certain antibiotics, steroid hormones, varicocele, hydrocele, inguinal hernia, cryptorchidism, mumps, radiation, electromagnetic fluctuations, testicular thermoregulation disorders (welding work, sauna, tight underwear, etc.), mechanical compression of the testicles (constant cycling), harmful habits, lack of proteins and vitamins in food, sleep deprivation, stress, etc.
Causes of the obstructive form: epididymitis, testicular and groin injuries, cyst or tumor of the epididymis, congenital absence of the epididymis or vas deferens, syphilis, tuberculosis. Other causes of male infertility may include testosterone deficiency, inflammatory diseases of the reproductive organs, genetic disorders, ejaculation disorders, erectile dysfunction, anomalies in the development of the reproductive organs, etc.
A separate cause of infertility is the immunological incompatibility of partners (a woman’s allergy to spermatozoa or other sperm components).
Psychosomatics of Infertility
To uncover the psychosomatics of infertility, we need to understand what conception is. It is the fertilization of the female egg by the male sperm. Medicine emphasizes that mature sex cells are needed for conception.
Translated into psychosomatic language, conception is the interaction of male and female energies. It is emphasized that the carriers of these energies – the man and woman – should ideally be psychologically “mature” for this process in soul, mind, and body.
Hence, the absence of conception indicates that the above-mentioned necessary conditions are not met: the carriers (man or woman, or both) are internally not ready to become parents or there is no harmonious interaction between the man and woman.
Renowned author Louise Hay writes that infertility is a manifestation of fear and resistance to the life process or the lack of a need to gain parenting experience.
Psychologist Liz Bourbo believes that in most cases, people suffering from infertility harbor fear, particularly fear of problems related to the child.
She also identifies a possible psychological cause as self-blame for unproductivity in some area (when a person sees no positive results of their efforts at work, in creativity, etc.).
Doctor Luule Viilma emphasizes that childlessness is a problem of educated people with high self-esteem who love to set conditions and demands on others (“first change, become good, then I will love”).
Also, this author writes that infertility usually afflicts exemplary, model people in everything, as well as people striving to cope with everything alone.
Psychological Causes of Female Infertility
Let’s consider the psycho-emotional causes leading women to infertility.
Firstly, it is unpreparedness for motherhood. It can manifest as fear. Indeed, if a woman is mature in soul, mind, and body and ready to become a mother, can she have such frivolous fears as fear of maternal cares, fear of losing figure, fear of change, fear of dependency.
Other causes of infertility may be natural fears, such as fear of childbirth or fear of repeating a negative situation (miscarriage, etc.). Psychologists have identified the following psychological causes of female infertility:
- The child is needed not for the woman, but for others (husband, parents);
- Conscious refusal of a child in the past;
- The woman does not love her husband;
- The fixation “I want to have a child”;
- Desire to have a child as a means of solving problems, including family disagreements;
- Rejection of one’s feminine nature;
- Too much male energy in a woman (authoritative, willful, career-focused, etc.);
- Unconscious rejection of pregnancy (fears, traumas, beliefs from childhood in the subconscious);
- Poor relationship of the woman with her mother;
- Secondary benefits of childlessness (no need to change the previous lifestyle, sacrifice time, sleep, habits, etc.);
- Upbringing not according to gender (not as a girl, but as a boy);
- An inadequate, overly idealized image of a mother in a woman’s mind (should be slim, patient, always smiling, etc.), which is impossible to realize in reality.
Liz Bourbo asserts that infertility is a necessary experience for women who want to have a child because it is customary, or to feel like a woman. That is, the child is needed as a means, not as an end in itself.
Doctor V. Sinelnikov explains female infertility as something in the subconscious that destroys the soul of the future child – enormous subconscious aggression, a program of child destruction. But this is not realized by her.
Further, Sinelnikov writes that a woman, in whose subconscious there is contempt for the man, is infertile, as she despises the spirit (symbolized by the man).
Also, a man who despises a woman becomes impotent, as he despises the earthly (symbolized by the woman).
Apart from contempt, causes of female infertility can be subconscious aggression towards men, expressed through claims, resentment, jealousy, hatred.
Another cause of infertility in women can be impure thoughts (for example, the desire to tie a man).
Another well-known author, O. Torsunov, emphasizes that for the normal functioning of the hormones of the future mother, corresponding qualities are needed: warmth, tenderness, care, sensitivity, patience, etc.
On the contrary, opposite qualities (coldness, indifference, apathy, aimlessness, disappointment in life, cruelty, etc.) negatively affect the condition of the woman’s hormonal system.
Psychological Causes of Male Infertility
According to psychologists, male infertility is a manifestation of the blockade of male power, associated with family problems. Also, the following psychological causes are highlighted:
- Fear of a real deep connection;
- Irresponsible attitude to children or fear of responsibility;
- Refusal of the male role in life or rejection of one’s male power.
Common Psychological Causes of Infertility
Psychologists have also identified common causes for both male and female infertility:
- Disharmonious, conflictual relationships between spouses;
- Uncertainty about the future due to material instability;
- As an option: uncertainty about the future (and children are a symbol of the future);
- Family problems (in particular, grievances against parents);
- No need to gain parenting experience;
- Absence in the subconscious of readiness for the appearance of a child.
Paths to Healing
When medical conclusions declare a person healthy but conception does not occur, it makes sense to look inside oneself and ask: what is in my inner world that prevents conception? The above-mentioned psychological causes clearly indicate that they are all related to fears or beliefs, or emotions living in the subconscious of a person. Therefore, a person needs to analyze all their thoughts and feelings related to pregnancy, the child, motherhood.
In doing so, one needs to be honest with oneself, admit one’s experiences and feelings (e.g., fears, if any). Next, trace where they came from (these could be stereotypes imposed by society, etc.), accept them and realize their uselessness (because what can be useful for you in others’ beliefs imposed on you, or in a fixation, or in resentment). And let go: fears, stereotypes, foreign ideas, imposed images, grievances, etc.
Then, with all honesty, ask yourself: do I really want and am I ready to become a mother (father)? Listen to yourself. Do not try to deceive yourself, answer honestly. No matter what answer you get inside, because in any case, you can continue to work on yourself and achieve what you really want.
And, if a person really wants to become a mother or father (note: not to have a child, but to become), then they will go in this direction: putting their body in order, cleansing their inner world of negativity, correcting shortcomings, etc.
For example, I knew a woman who began to pray sincerely every morning and continued until the long-awaited conception (almost a year), and then until the birth itself, as she realized that prayers helped her cleanse her inner world of negativity, develop the necessary qualities and maintain mental harmony.
Each person has their own path to healing, as each soul is individual and contains its own set of thoughts and feelings. But the action algorithm is roughly the same.
The question is different: are you ready to go this way?
I wish you courage and spiritual strength!